Two weeks ago, my ex made some condescending, unsubstantiated remarks towards me that angered me so much, I set out to prove him wrong out of spite and to show him exactly how much I am capable of. He had made judgments about me during one of my most vulnerable times – where I had terrible, exhausting insomnia and consequent sleep deprivation due mostly to my anxious thoughts, many of which were regarding the consequences of our breakup. It was a very demotivating time – I was trying my best to calm my mind and fall asleep, but I just couldn’t – I just tossed and turned for 5, 6, 7 hours.
However, when he said those judgmental, generalizing, untrue remarks to me, something in me snapped. How dare he? He had no idea about what I was going through, the struggles I was dealing with, or the progress I had been making, yet he felt entitled to speak to me in such a degrading way. His arrogant ignorance absolutely enraged me.
And so I used that anger, that indignation. My anger towards him helped burn away the sad, anxious thoughts I had had regarding our breakup. I only got 2-3 hours of sleep for a couple of days so that I could collapse early in the evening with exhaustion. I began taking sleep supplements (these gummies that contain melatonin, L-Theanine, chamomile, passionflower, and lemon balm). Thus, I fixed my sleep schedule and cured my insomnia.
I also started furiously applying for jobs. I drafted cover letters and sent off more applications than ever. And that has paid off as well: currently I have 2 phone interviews scheduled, an in-person interview tomorrow, and another company contacted me just this morning to schedule a phone interview with me.
I could’ve let my ex’s patronizing, negative remarks get me down. I could’ve taken what he said, disregarded that he was speaking from a place of complete ignorance, and really let it hit me and leave me feeling worse about myself. I could’ve drowned myself in depression.
Instead I got angry, indignant, enraged. I took his careless, unkind words and used them as fuel. I took his words as a challenge, an opportunity to show him just how wrong he was.
And I succeeded.
Things are going better than ever for me right now, and now I need to go prepare for my phone interview today. 🙂