Many people don’t set resolutions (even though they want to change) because they believe setting resolutions is pointless because they won’t fulfill them anyway. And to those people I say you’re exactly right: if you don’t believe it’s possible for you to change you absolutely will not change.
You have to believe. Not just think “Oh, that would be nice” or “I wish I could change (x)”. Before you change anything you have to first believe, to your core, that you are capable of making the change.
For years I wanted to lose weight and for years I treated that wish in a lukewarm way like many others do their resolutions like “Oh that would be nice, but it’s probably not going to happen.” And surprise, surprise it didn’t. Because my lukewarm thinking led to lukewarm action, which was really not much action at all.
It wasn’t until this year, after listening to one inspiring Youtuber in particular, did I begin to think it was possible, that I was capable of change. I sat with those thoughts for a few weeks, let them marinate, let them sink in until I felt in my core I could do this. And I started taking real action to make that change. And what do you know, half a year later I had shed 20 pounds.
The most transformational part of my weight loss wasn’t the weight loss itself – after all 20 pounds isn’t some huge number – it was the shift in my mindset. The realization of how much my self-doubt had been holding me back, and how much I could accomplish if I first truly believed it possible.
That mentality has led me to accomplish many more goals this year. Instead of feeling helpless and as though I am someone life is just happening to, I feel more in control of my life. It’s the difference between being in the passenger seat and the driver’s seat.
So, to anyone who wants to make a change in the new year, first believe you are capable of it. Because you are. Sometimes you may also have to fake that feeling first, you might feel it only shallowly. But keep affirming it, focusing on it, imagining it, and let it fill you up over time.
When you believe in yourself, you allow yourself to take control of your life.